Here’s How to Find and Keep A Fuck Buddy
Have you ever wished that you could meet someone to hook up with occasionally with no strings attached and no drama? It sounds too good to be true, doesn’t it? Well, it can happen. You too can get your very own fuck buddy. And no, you don’t have to be rich, super good-looking, or own a motorcycle to get and keep a fuck friend. (Although those things can’t hurt!) All you need to do is have a mutual understanding between someone you’re attracted to, and vice versa. And like with anything in life, there are rules. But we’ll get to them later.
First, we’ll define what a f-buddy exactly is. Then we’ll explain where to find one. Once you find a fuck friend, you’ll probably want to keep them for a while, especially if they’re great in bed. We’ll also talk about the differences between a buddy to fuck and a friend with benefits.
Without further ado, here is the ultimate guide to getting and keeping a fuck buddy!
What is a Fuck Buddy?
Also known as a fuck friend, a fuck buddy is someone you have sex with and nothing more. There’s no commitment, no strings attached, and no expectations. Having one is great when you don’t want a relationship or even dating. But you still have needs, right? Of course you do. And your buddy does too. These can be the best “relationships” when there are no expectations. You can have your single life and still get laid. In other words, you can have your cake and eat it too.
In a Sex and the City episode called “The Fuck Buddy,” Carrie has a fuck buddy. She’s slept with John before, and he’s there to bang here after a breakup. He makes her feel good about herself again without all the drama. But then Carrie fucks everything up by pondering their relationship. Why can’t they be more than friends, she wonders. They go out to dinner, and John is a big flop outside of the bedroom. He’s boring and unsexy. And she realizes she made a big mistake by attempting to date her fuck buddy.
Samantha even tells Carrie: “You can’t date your fuck buddy! You’re going to take the only person in your life that’s there purely for sex, no strings attached, and turn him into a human being? Why?” But does Carrie listen? Nope. And in the end, she loses her fuck friend for good. See what she did?
How to Get a Buddy to Fuck
To find someone to casually fuck on a regular basis, you first need to have an open mind. And honesty is good too. When you meet someone, make sure they know you are only looking to get laid and not get into a relationship. Don’t lead someone on who has a serious crush on you. There are plenty of other unattached people out there to fuck.
If you’re wondering where to find a fuck friend, there are many places. Just exclude work, because you don’t want to find a buddy to fuck at work, for obvious reasons! I’ve known several people who found fuck buddies on sites like Plenty of Fish, Tinder, and even Craigslist.
Differences Between a F-Buddy and an FWB
You may be asking yourself, what’s the difference between fuck buddies and a friend with benefits? They sure do sound the same, don’t they? Well, an f-buddy is someone you fuck, and that’s it. There’s no hanging out afterwards. There’s no talking music or movies. You might set a time and day for another romp in the hay, but that’s as far as communication goes.
The most prominent difference is that you’re not friends with your buddy. There’s sex but no other interactions. Relationships with fuck buddies usually begins as one-night stands or drunken hook ups. On the other hand, friends with benefits usually begins as – you guessed it – friends. You have some mutual interests with your friend with benefits, and you might even hang out outside of the bedroom. You may have common friends too.
Keeping a Fuck Buddy
When establishing an f-buddy, there are some rules that you should follow to keep them. This ensures that everyone is on the same page and nobody gets their feelings hurt (hopefully).
Don’t get jealous or clingy
You and your friend chose to have sex with no strings attached because you want to avoid having feelings. As soon as you start to become jealous and clingy, it ruins the passion associated with having such spontaneous and hot encounters. It’s better to just enjoy the sex and don’t get involved in their personal life at all.
Don’t expect your buddy to drop everything they’re doing the moment they get that “Come over and fuck me” text. They have a life!
Have mutual respect for each other
Sure, you’re just banging, but please respect the person you’re banging.
There must be a mutual understanding
This is important. Both parties must be clear that it’s only a sexual relationship and nothing more. It should also be clear to both that there are no deep feelings involved, nor will they develop out of this situation.
Don’t spend the night at each other’s places
This is not a sleepover situation. You bang, and you or they leave. It’s that simple. There’s no need for anyone to stick around. Needs have been fulfilled, and now it’s time to leave.
It’s great to try out new things with your buddy. You have nothing to lose, right? Focus on your fantasies and get creative.
You should have few or no mutual friends
It can become a very sticky situation if you know a lot of the same people and may have to be careful in making sure that nothing is revealed to them.
If you start to develop feelings, let them go
The whole purpose of a fuck buddy is to get your satisfaction from a hot person with no emotions attached. Once one person begins to feel deeply about the other, things will begin to get messy.