Top 12 Swinger Dating Sites For Couples (2019)

Jim Wade Author

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Are you and your partner new on the swinging scene? Maybe you are old pro’s looking for a better way to meet others. Whatever your reason is for wanting to find like-minded individuals the internet has a plethora of options at your disposal. Each of these sites and apps offers something slightly different so we wanted to help you out. As the authority on swinger dating sites, we are sure you’ll find one that fits your needs. 

Seriously though are you looking into spice up your social life with your partner? A swinger’s lifestyle isn’t always peaches and oranges in this monogamous centered world. Swinging is typically described as a nonmonogamous relationship where each partner can have an open relationship with another person, emotionally, sexually, and/or physically.

Behold, the holy grail of swinger sites! If you’ve been scouring the web looking for the best place to get your swing on, consider your search over. We’ve done all the leg work so you don’t have to. When it comes to adult dating sites it can be a minefield out there. Let our guide help you save time and get to swinging quickly. 

 

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Kasidie

Read the full review here: Kasidie Full Review

 

When beginning your search for a swinging site changes are the name Kasidie will come up off the bat. That is for good reason, Kasidie is one of the premier places to find a strong swinging community. Kasidie is set up to be accessible by both singles or couples. You and your partner can set up a joint account or you can have an individual account as well. This site is more than just a place to meet others to hook up with. On Kasidie you can feel like you are part of a community. The forums allow you to ask your deepest questions and receive advice from a caring community. There is also access to swingers events and guides to sex clubs that might be local to you. All and all we think Kasidie is one of the best places to enjoy the company of other swingers. 

 

The good: 

 

  • The community is for swingers only so there should be no confusion as to why you are there. 
  • The site has profiles for meetups, forums for questions and an events guide. 
  • Kasidie is extremely affordable. 

 

The bad: 

  • There is no fully functional free trial of Kasidie. 
  • Kasidie does not have a mobile app. 
  • Profiles are not verified. 

 

Cost : 

Free – Basic account 

1 month $19.95 

3 months at $15.00 per month (25% savings)

6 months at $12.66 per month ( 37% savings)

12  months at $10.82 per month (46% savings) Best pricing available

 

Swinglifestyle.com

Swinger Lifestyle

 

You will definitely encounter Swing Lifestyle in your hunt for the perfect swingers site! SLS is not free however you can create a free account but your options are limited. Free members can only receive and read messages but cannot send or reply. Swinglifestyle.com has been around for decades. The registration on SLS is pretty simple. You must come up with a unique username, your email, some basic information about what it is you are looking for and that’s it! SLS is for single or couple swingers and profile pictures are not necessary, but don’t be that person! SLS offers a chatroom as well but only Premium members can use the instant messaging system. 

 

The good: 

  • Relatively affordable considering a 12-month subscription will only cost $5.83 per month. 
  • SLS has been on the scene forever so their userbase is huge and well established. 
  • There is a chatroom. 

 

The bad: 

  • Profiles are visible to anyone even those who have not paid so keep that in mind. 
  • There is no app

 

Cost:

So now that you have decided a premium subscription is for you then let me break down the pricing. All in all, the most pocket-friendly option would be the 12-month subscription option as you would be saving $9.12 a month.

1 Month Subscription: $14.95 USD, 

3 Month Subscription: $9.98 USD, 

6 Month Subscription: $8.33 USD, 

12-month Subscription: $5.83 USD. 

 

Fling

Fling

 

While Fling is not a swingers only plateform it might be worth checking out as an option as a dating site for couples. When you visit Fling.com you are hit with pretty erotic imagery right off the bat. The site does allow you to select that you are a couple so they definitely are open to the swinger lifestyle. This site has a good amount of users but not tons so you might have a hard time finding people if you are looking in a small town. Major metropolitan areas will have much more success. 

 

The good:

  • There is an app for android and iOS
  • Profiles have been reported to be real. 
  • A team reviews profiles for authentication.

 

The bad:

  • Site is a little old school.
  • Some messages were still fake. 
  • Not a ton of members.

 

Cost:

There is a free or trial version of the site you can use to test it out before you purchase. 

After that there are many membership options some that we have included below:

$5 for a 3-day trial 

Silver membership for one month: $25.00

Gold membership for one month: $35.00

 

Mixxxer

Mixxxer

Read the full review here: Mixxxer Full Review

 

If you have been in the Swinger lifestyle for some time now you have probably heard of websites like Mixxxer! Mixxer is super popular and probably where you will find the best luck, You can find local Swinger parties in your area or even other potential prospect partners that are looking for something similar to you. Whatever it may be, Mixxxer got you. Mixxxer has been published by some really high-end sources like Cosmopolitan and MTV so that gives it some credibility. Be a little cautious about Mixxxer as there are some traps you will want to watch out for. You can read all about them in our full review.

 

The good: 

  • Mixxxer is for swingers only.
  • It’s pretty affordable.
  • You can find open-minded people on the site. 

 

The bad: 

 

  • Mixxxer used to have an app but no longer does. 
  • You will have to pay to message people on the site.
  • Bots have been reported in some reviews. 

 

Cost :

3-month membership cost $19.99 

 

SwapFinder

SwapFinder

 

The cool thing about SwapFinder is that couples use this site to swap partners. It’s like a real-life version of ABC’s Wife Swap! You can find photos and videos of singles and couples on this site. In addition, there is a magazine section, where users ask questions about sex and contribute articles sharing their own experiences. It’s a publication by swingers, for swingers. There may be a few red flags when it comes to dealing with SwapFinder so make sure you treat this site with caution. Check them out for yourself! 

 

The good: 

  • SwapFinder is geared towards swingers only. 
  • Profiles are fast and easy to set up.
  • There is a magazine for sharing swinging stories

 

The bad: 

  • Lots of advertisements. 
  • You need a premium account to view photos and videos.

 

Cost :

1 Month $30 

3 Months $20/Month, $60

12 Months $15/Month, $180 

 

Swingers Date Club

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If you are looking for a swanky version of the swingers dating app this one is a great option. Right from the start Swingers Date Club gives you the feeling you’re in for a luxe experience. As one of the oldest (1999) swingers clubs, SDC is tried and true. They have a large community of swingers so you will likely find people you hit it off with. SDC has a free week-long trial so you really don’t have much to lose when it comes to trying out the site. In order to keep fake profiles at bay SDC does require a photo to verify you. 

 

The good: 

  • SDC is a well-established community 
  • There is a free 7-day trial 
  • Profiles are verified. 

 

The bad: 

  • You will have to pay a pricey membership after your trial. 
  • You can see profile pictures but many users hide their other photos.

 

Cost: 

1 month is $29.95 per month 

3 months is $19.98 per month Total: $59.94

6 months is $16.66 per month Total: $99.96

12 months is $12.50 per month Total: $150.00

 

SwingTowns

SwingTown Website

 

SwingsTowns claims to be the world’s largest non-monogamy community. Despite SwingTowns has been around since 2000 but the site is not reflective of its age. The site is pretty modernized and reminiscent of most social media sites. SwingTowns is not only for swingers but also for couples looking for people interested in polyamorous relationships. If you are pursuing a threesome relationship but are a single thats accepted on SwingTowns as well. The profile set up is super unique and not like most dating sites. Your profile is set up like a Facebook Page with your photo and info in your bio. There is also an activity section that operates like a Facebook feed.

 

The good: 

  • Fake profiles are requested to be reported so that they can be taken down. 
  • Facebook-style profiles make for an interactive community. 
  • Large userbase.

 

The bad: 

  • Some might be there for love in a polyamorous dynamic. 
  • If you live in a small town you might not have a lot of options. 

 

Cost: 

1 Month $15.95

6 Months $8.16

12 Months $5.75

 

Fetlife

FetLife

 

Fetlife, like the name suggests, is for all things fetish related. We don’t really consider swinging a fetish but more of a way of life. Regardless you can expect to find a community of welcoming open-minded people that won’t judge your lifestyle. If you’d rather keep your profile exclusive that’s fine. You’ll find a lot of the users don’t show their faces in their profiles. FetLife does have a ton of users so even though some might not be into swinging you have a good chance at finding some that are. When using FetLife you might feel it seems like an older interface than sites built recently but its age has helped it become more established.

 

The good: 

  • Tons of open-minded users.
  • Affordable compared to a lot of dating sites. 
  • You do get a lot out of the free trial. You might not need to upgrade depending on your needs. 

 

The bad: 

  • Reviews seem like the quality of the site has decreased in regards to members.
  • Not everyone is there for swinging.
  • A lot of profiles don’t show their photos. 

 

Cost :

Free membership

6 Month $30.00

12 Month $60.00 

Lifetime $240.00

 

Alt.com

 

Alt.com is your one-stop-shop for all things taboo. If it doesn’t fall into the realm of conventional you can find it on Alt. Now Alt is not a swingers only site but they are open to all kinds of varied sexuality. When you sign up you can select your gender (all-inclusive) and then if you’re single or in a couple. In your swinging, you can feel comfortable exploring all other kinks including BDSM, fetish sex or bondage. Your swinging doesn’t have to be limited to just swapping partners explore all avenues of your sexuality. You will need to go through a strict verification process which is great to weed out fake profiles. 

 

The good: 

  • There is a free version of the site but upgrading will give you more features
  • Strict verification 
  • There is a chatroom

 

The bad: 

  • You have to pay to read messages people have sent to you.
  • You will also need to upgrade to “flirt” on the site. 

 

Cost : 

1 Month is $22.94 

3 Months is $13.79/ Month

12 Months is $10.29/ Month

 

Reddit for swingers

 

One of my favorite websites ever is Reddit and to find out about the official Swinger website. There is an official thread that discusses the pros and cons of each swinger website out there. You can find this thread useful in narrowing down which site will fit best with your needs. You can also scroll down and read success stories as well as a couple of funny horror stories. But let’s be real, those are fun to read and most likely will not happen to you as long as you are smart about what you’re doing, where you’re going and who you’re seeing. Again, share your location with a trusted friend!

 

The good: 

  • Reddit is free to use
  • The community is very passionate about educating and teaching. 
  • You can ask questions and find locals. 

 

The bad: 

  • Some people are there to learn rather than find dates. 
  • Moderators can be harsh

 

Cost: 

Reddit is free to use! There is really no reason why you shouldn’t be making the most of this resource. 

 

Feeld.co

 

If things are getting stale in your relationship or you’re just ready to spice it up, Feeld is the open-minded app for you. Feeld is open to all genders and sexual identities and prides itself on an inclusive community. If you’re looking for a space to be truly yourself Feeld is it. A unique feature that Feeld has is the ability for couples to share an account. This feature is great for transparency in your relationship. Feeld allows you to change your location so you can find a couple anywhere in the world that is into whatever you and your partner are into. You might think Feeld is only for couples but that could not be further from the truth. On Feeld you can be a unicorn or you can sign up for whatever alternative relationship you want. If you are a member of the LGBTQ community you are totally welcome on Feeld. 

A great thing about this app is its inclusivity. Feeld welcomes Polysexuals, pansexuals, bisexuals, Asexuals, Androsexuals, Allosexuals, and the list goes on and on. Feeld is unique because you can create group chats and even exchange photos within the app. Something you can’t do on Tinder or Bumble. Play it cool, and don’t be a weirdo though

 

The good:

  • An inclusive community for threesomes
  • Couples can make joined accounts
  • You can match with individuals or couples anywhere 

 

The bad:

  • Some people are looking for hookups only not relationships
  • Finding a match takes time 
  • You can only chat with each other you can’t send videos or photos

 

Cost: 

1 Month cost $11.99

3 Months cost $8.00/ Month

 

Facebook 

Facebook

 

When do Facebook groups ever disappoint?! That’s right, they don’t! You can find any type of group you could imagine on Facebook! The other day I found a group specifically for shaming bad manicures. They got groups for dad jokes, car shopping, home shopping, clothing swaps, concert tickets, and you guessed it… Swinger parties! You can search for “swingers”, or “BDSM” or even “Kink” under the group filters. However, most of these groups are private and require you to answer a few questions before getting approval to join. You may not feel comfortable using Facebook to explore your partner options but give it a shot, it won’t disappoint!

 

The good:

  • Facebook is free to use. 
  • There are tons of groups you can join. 
  • Groups are often welcoming and helpful. 

 

The bad: 

  • Most groups are private so you will have to be approved by an admin
  • These groups are linked to your REAL Facebook account so be careful with your privacy settings. 
  • It may be hard to find couples in your specific area.  

 

Cost :

Facebook is free to use!