Why Cheating on Your Spouse Can Be Good For Your Relationship

Jim Wade Author

Cheating is good

In today’s society, cheating is considered to be an inevitable part of human nature. This happens when boredom and curiosity get the best of our hearts – and our groins. While infidelity may sound like a betrayal, it also has a brighter side. Surprised? Well, a new theory suggests that having an extramarital affair can put a spark in your relationship. While cheating can be good for some couples, others might want to try polygamy and enjoy the benefits of an open relationship.

Check out some of the reasons why cheating on your spouse can be good for your relationship:


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It brings honesty and openness

When your partner realizes you’ve been cheating, it can lead to openness in conversations. This is a great way of reconnecting the erotic intimacy you once shared. Believe it or not, the fear of loss can help you act if you really want to hold on to your partner. Obviously, having an honest discussion is the first step in rebuilding trust. Although some of the questions may be difficult to navigate, you need to explain why you cheated on him or her.

Before you cheat on your partner, there are some warning signs. Perhaps, something was wrong in the intimacy long before you had an affair. In the aftermath of cheating, this is the time to explore what really happened. Dig deep on what made you cheat and have a conversation on how you can relate to each other in a healthy way. Sometimes, it can be challenging to communicate when your partner has betrayed your trust. A professional counselor can help you get through the barriers of communication and facilitate the recovery process. 

It’s a litmus test in your relationship

If your partner hangs around after cheating, he or she could be in for the long haul. For example, if you cheat on your wife, she may look at the underlying problems in the relationship. This is a self-discovery process where each of you gets an opportunity to learn about each other. If she decides to stay in the relationship, make sure you address the inadequacies and become vocal in them. When a couple realizes they are about to lose each other, they tend to fight for the relationship. Sometimes, it can lead to the end of a marriage or the beginning of a new chapter in life. If your partner really loves you, he or she will put extra effort to win you back.

It puts you in a new state of mind

When your partner cheats on you, it’s easy to forget about your self-care. This is a great opportunity to do the things that bring pleasure. Take a bubble bath, spend time with friends, cook your favorite dish, and more. While these things won’t fix the problem, a daily self-care ritual will improve the quality of life in the long run. If your partner is still cheating even after addressing the loopholes in the relationship, it’s time you reflect outside the bounds of the relationship. It’s worth noting some people cheat as a way of exiting the relationship.

Cheating can lead to reconsidering what you want in life

When you learn why your partner cheated, you can decide whether you want to stay or leave. Take your time and process why he cheated and decide whether you want to make some changes. Cheating can be a life-altering event or an eye-opener. Maybe you want to spend time with your friends or focus on your career. If your relationship lacks the zeal to reignite the spark of love, you don’t have to stay. Take your time to regain your self-confidence. By making new encounters, it will make you feel seductive and irresistible.

Without a doubt, cheating makes your partner offended. If you feel its time you take some time away from each other, don’t hesitate to do so. This space will help you sort things out and evaluate whether you really want to be with that person. And if you’re emotionally affected, don’t be afraid to reach out to your support network. Other than that, be sure to share your experience with friends who have dealt with betrayal in the past.

You can define what kind of relationship works for you

Cheating can wreak havoc your self-esteem. But one question that comes to your mind when your partner cheats on you: Can it ever work? When your partner cheats, evaluate whether it’s worth being in the relationship or its time to let go. Cheating gives the couple an opportunity to define the kind of relationship they want. Take time to evaluate the problems that led to cheating. Don’t be too quick to judge—your partner could be cheating with hopes of changing the relationship.

One thing we all have to accept is that infidelity means different things for all of us. Maybe it’s time to set those boundaries. When your partner crosses the line, let him know that you might reconsider being part of their lives. But if you plan to forget the past and forge ahead, make sure you’re reading from the same script. While infidelity can ruin your relationship, it can also lead to the blossoming of new love.

It brings a sense of accountability and forgiveness

Every relationship has problems. When you cheat your partner, you may feel a renewed sense of accountability to each other. You have to take an honest account of your mistakes. Of course, there is a fear of losing everything you’ve built for many years. Maybe you knew something was amiss, but you didn’t know until infidelity came to light. This is the best time to work on it.

The truth is that it’s not easy to forgive your partner after infidelity. But forgiveness is something that should prevail in a relationship. While cheating is a big thing to get over it, you can always appreciate the power of forgiveness.

It paves the way for an honest talk about sex

When you’re caught cheating, you might want to defend yourself. We’ve heard it a thousand times—the quality of sex wasn’t there, there’s a lack of sex, or loneliness around sexual intimacy. If you and your partner have never talked about sex, this could be the right opportunity to do so. Take time to understand each other’s needs and come up with ways of satisfying each other. Once again, it’s good to note that we are all different. Some people will lose sexual desire after learning of their partner’s infidelity, while others will feel their sexual appetite awakened.


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While no one wants the emotional exhaustion and devastation that comes with infidelity, therapists have a different approach to cheating. If you choose to stay in a relationship after cheating, there are positive things that can come out of this difficult situation.